My gift yesterday was meet someone new at church and talk to them about the real things they were asking me when they asked me about my ancestry (adoption, mixed race issues, self identity, identity development, transracial and interracial adoption, etc.) But not assuming they were just another person asking the same questions of me that got old when I was a kid or after the 1000 time someone asked me. http://racerelations.about.com/od/interracialrelationships/a/Three-...
I found this person had adopted an interracial child and was in a biracial relationship and had the best of intentions but was lacking on tact. My gift was not just politely dismissing her before we got to what her intentions were and then we had a nice discussion. I did not answer her questions however they are really none of her business I told her things like mixed race, adopted, etc. so she had to really dig around for what it was she wanted:)