Those Lacking the Giving Spirit .... little things matter

[genuine, wwt, welcomer]

Tonight is my night to do welcomes on the site.  I have to say I really enjoy doing that.  Serving in that role perhaps I should be sharing more positive things, but I just really needed to vent about this.  People who don't have the spirit of giving bring me down; I wish that I didn't allow them to do that but I do.

 

I have been calling around trying to get certain people to be an event my organization is having.  Now, I have had plenty of people say no.  That is fine; just say no politely ... like "no, I'm really not interested" or "I just don't think that's something I can do," etc.  But today this lady was soooo rude to me on the phone.  She goes "you're asking someone you don't even know to come and do this for you, and you're not going to give them anything in return."  Ahhh ... apparently, she doesn't know that some people actually do things for others without expecting anything back.  If you don't want to, just say no.  I actually cried after I got off the phone with her.

 

So for those of you who don't think the little things matter, just look at what a difference it made for me when people did something as simple as saying no politely; those people being polite gave me a gift.

 

Thank you for GIVING me the opportunity to get this off my chest.

[Dawn wwt]

i am so sorry you had to deal with that woman's rude behavior! apparently she hasn't even thought about how hard it might be to call someone you've never met and ask them for something or surely she'd be nicer...thanks for pointing out that something as seemingly small as politeness is a real gift. Hugs, Dawn

[Mary Johnson]

Genuine & Team Flohr - you're so right; I think we all need that reminder. 

I caught myself TWICE yesterday, when I went to pick up prescriptions for my mom and m-in-law at two different pharmacies. One was incorrect, the other wasn't done at all.  Thankfully, I sensed from the body language of both young ladies that my initial tone and expression were taken as hostile.  I actually thought of Lubabat and smiled at them!  Tensions eased on both ends and I thanked them for their assistance.

I feel sad for the lady who was so rude to you - I hope that she reflects on that call and realizes her attitude is as destructive internally as it was externally. She's hurting herself more than anything. 

Do you have her address?  I'd love to send her Cami's book anonymously.

[Deb~ Community Manager]

You are so right sweetie~ I am sorry you had to go through that. It is crazy for people to act in this manner. I wish people were more kind. Don' t let ot deter you from doing what you want in life. You have a huge giving heart. The good outweigh the bad and there are many that want to do good. Bless you Genuine.. Oh! Thanks for all you do here on the site. You rock My Lady~ xoxo

[Michele wwt]

Of course you may vent, that's what friends are for! That woman's response was completely uncalled for....very rude. I agree with Elly Rose, she needs to learn some manners. Hopefully today will be a better day for you. We are all here for you. :)

[Elly Rose Tech Support]

Genuine, I am sorry that you had a rough day.  Hopefully this person can someday learn manners.  Thanks for all you do here. I really appreciate you.

[Ann]

I am sorry that you had to endure people's rudeness.  Being rude for any reason is just not necessary.  Thank you for all you do and for your kind generous spirit!

[Aunty Nean]

Sorry it was such a tough day Genuine. I'm with Lois, maybe this lady needs to be gifted the 29 Gifts book to cause a change in her attitude.

[Lois55 wwt]

I am so sorry this happened to you, Genuine. apparently the woman hasn't read 29Gifts..since starting the challenge, I double check my tone, I don't want to sound rude when I am turning someone down for something. Or If i disagree with someone who comes to the door about religion or politics, I hope to turn them down with kindness all because of the challenge. It is special that you can come here and share your experiance with us, and remind  me to be kind at all times. Thank you.

[Team Flohr]

People need to be reminded.  Thanks for sharing!  You can say "No" and still BE NICE.

[Joan Concilio Otto]

Glad to "listen!" It's hard, when you are trying to surround yourself with good thoughts and something like that happens. I'm glad you're here, though, and I'm glad you're a giver yourself!