Although I continue to find the gift of daily giving a continued source of joy in my life, this particular post isn't really about something I did. I've been intrigued with it for weeks, but don't really know a better forum of people with whom I can share my thoughts.
A few weeks ago yet another patient of my husband died; he asked if I wanted to see the man's obituary and left the page open for me to read. Another notice close to that one caught my eye because the last name was the same as ours.....it's a fairly common name and I was fairly sure there was no relation, but that fact that this Garrity was a 17-year old boy took my breath away. Other than the listing of his family members and the details of his wake and funeral, there was no clue as to the cause of his death. Usually, if it's from some kind of disease, there will be a request, in lieu of flowers, for donations to certain hospitals or organizations. With nothing like that, I'm curious.....was it an accident or perhaps suicide?
The sentence that still haunts me is "In Billy's memory, please extend an act of kindness to another". For whatever happened in this young man's life, can you imagine a finer request? It leaves me to think if I had known this family, I would like them very much.
It's a bit radical, but I've already decided and arranged....when I die, there will be no wake, there will be no funeral; I'd like to be cremated and have my ashes spread out in the back woods of the Morton Arboretum. I've told my husband that he can invite whoever he thinks may care to the "spreading of my ashes" ceremony; rather morbidly, I've also created a "Memorial Day Mix" of songs that have great meaning for me; sometimes I laugh when I think about it, hoping he'll know where to look for this music and what technology will he be using to play it by then....
My new idea though is to create a similar sort of sentiment to hand out to whoever may be there.....I can't think of anything else I'd like to say as my final thoughts here on earth.